Are you too critical?
If you're in medicine, have you noticed that there seem to be a lot of unhappy people around?
Maybe this is due to tunnel vision in the microniche that is a residency training program, but it seems like the faculty are also a relatively unhappy bunch. Well, maybe not *unhappy* per se, but pessimistic and cynical. (Note - this is in direct contrast to the visiting attendings who come around once a month and all seem to love their jobs/lives.)
Now, I think the real reason is much more complicated than this, and may include things like: poor reimbursement for trying to juggle a lot of different balls, disadvantages to working within a relatively inefficient system, bureaucratic/political issues, frustration with the perceived lack of work ethic in the current generation of trainees.
But humor me for a moment, while I digress on this hypothesis:
Maybe part of the reason why people involved in training programs are so unhappy is because of the way medical training is conducted in the United States.
What do I mean by this?
In medicine we are taught to see pathology. First year medical school is all about "normal," and then every year after that focuses on what goes wrong. We learn all about the pathological processes that can occur in the organ systems. Eventually we hit the wards and learn to fine tune our sense of what is normal and more importantly, what is not. We learn to eyeball a new patient and know that "things are not looking good." Each note we write reinforces this - the assessment and plan is a litany of different "problems" the patient has. We are trained to anticipate problems before they occur, to check labs for any signs of abnormalities or trends towards abnormality. With chief complaints, we are taught to think of the worst possible scenarios and rule them out. And make sure that bad possible scenarios numbered 2 through 14 are also ruled out. And all patients have multiple problems.
If one isn't careful to balance out this skewed view of life, it's easy to assume that all people are "full of problems." We forget that most live uneventful, healthy lives, and more importantly, we forget to look for the normal. That ability to hone in on the abnormal, while most useful in an acute patient care setting, becomes somewhat of a liability in our everyday lives. And while it may be easy for someone who works, AND has a life outside of work, suffice it to say that this is not the modus operandus of most residents (and most attendings, for that matter.) The end result? A group of high functioning individuals who have been well trained to look for what's "wrong" with the picture, who unfortunately become consumed with work and fail to see the forest for the trees.
Here's a completely different view of life:
A close friend works as a personal trainer. Her goal at work is to encourage clients to reach their maximum physical potential. This involves non-stop encouragement, which starts from "that's a great top you have on" to "you've improved so much since the last time we met." Her workday revolves around objectively evaluating a client's workout and using that for positive reinforcement. The day in, day out practicing of this positive mindframe spreads into her personal life.
I think we can learn a lot from how other professions think about things/carry themselves, and make sure that we only use the critical eye when it is needed. We owe it to ourselves to not drag ourselves (or the people around us!) down. Be on the lookout for normal today. Actively look for the positive. It's all around you - you just have to take it in.